For the last month or so my daughter has been saying "Sorry Mommy" and "Sorry Daddy" all the time, possibly up to a hundred times a day. First let me say, neither my husband or I have ever asked her to say she's sorry for anything or indicated that those are even words that she should know. It's making me a bit anxious for a couple of reasons. I don't want her to be unhappy, or think that we are angry or upset with her. I definitely don't want her to think that she's done something wrong when she obviously hasn't, and frankly she hasn't done anything in her nearly two years that warrants an apology.
But the reason that this recent trend is troubling me is that I don't want my daughter to be submissive. I don't want her to think she done something wrong by just being herself, in general. I want her to stand up for herself, be strong, speak up and never ever think that she is wrong for speaking her mind. Even if that means disagreeing with me (not for a while yet, please).
I suspect that she's heard me say, "Sorry," a few too many times. Perhaps this is something that I need to work on in myself; stop apologizing for the slightest thing. Or simply find a new word to use for those bumps and small trip-ups I'm prone to ask forgiveness for.
The reality of the situation is that this is probably just a phase and she more than likely doesn't even understand what the word means fully. But it'll be something I'll be watching for. In the meantime, I'll just keep saying, "No sorries. Just say, I love you."
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